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Who pays for what at a wedding in Russia


Paying for your own wedding can be a problem, regardless of your financial situation. Many people are lucky enough to receive financial assistance from their parents, but if you do not have such assistance, you can still refuse the wedding of your dreams. Follow these simple steps to pay for your own wedding, regardless of your situation.

  1. 1 Create a budget. Do this before doing idleness before your wedding date. You will need to know exactly how much money you can save each month, and how much money you can afford to spend on a wedding.
  2. 2 Plan your offseason wedding. You may be surprised at how much cheaper it is to organize a wedding in December than at the peak of the wedding summer season or early fall. Think about places to celebrate in your area to see if they give you a discount on your wedding out of season or even Friday night.
  3. 3 Find out how many guests you invite. With early budgeting, you can figure out how many people are potentially possible to feed at the celebration.
  4. 4 Open a separate account. As soon as you get engaged with your soulmate, go to the bank and open a separate savings account for wedding funds. Transfer part of your salary to this account. Open a savings account with a high interest rate. If you save money for a long time, you can also get your cash equivalent.
  5. 5 Talk with your friends and parents. Perhaps you know someone who takes wedding photos and will be willing to work for free or for a percentage of the regular fee. You may be friends with a graphic designer who can design wedding invitations for you. You may be surprised when you see that your friends and family sacrifice their time and skills to create your dream wedding.
  6. 6 Hiring a wedding planner. A wedding planner will cost you extra money, but you can find out about discounts and special offers that you don’t even know about. You can rely on the wedding planner to cut costs, and this way you will know that everyone is working hard to save as much of your money as possible.
  7. 7 Consider using a credit card. Open a credit card and use it only to buy wedding items. This will stretch the payments on the card, so you do not have to pay for everything at once.
  8. 8 Create payment plans. Think about the venue, talk to your photographer, think about the dishes to make payment in plans. You will be surprised how willingly your friends will work with the payment schedule, if this means that they will receive their income.
  • Reducing your guest list is the best way to save money.

What does the groom pay for the wedding, and for what - the bride?

Even at the initial stage of preparation for the celebration, it is worth stipulating what the groom pays for and what the bride is at the wedding for. Especially if the young do not live together and as such do not yet have a common budget. Separately, pay attention to the spending of parents on the organization of the event. Should I take help? Won't the mothers, relying on the investment of their own funds, try to make the evening to their liking and look for how to save money on the wedding, not paying attention to your preferences and opinions?

There are two ways to pay for wedding expenses: in half or based on the number of guests. So, for what and who pays at the wedding.

Spending by the bride:

  • bachelorette party organization
  • wedding look: dress, shoes, accessories,
  • makeup artist, hairdresser, manicure services,
  • gifts to parents and relatives of the groom,
  • attributes for redemption,
  • treats before the trip for painting,
  • decorations for the girl’s apartment,
  • a gift for the groom (if desired).

Spending by the groom:

  • stag organization
  • buying engagement rings
  • wedding look: suit, shoes,
  • alcohol and sweet to buy,
  • payment of state fees when applying to the registry office,
  • boutonnieres for myself and the witness,
  • a gift for the bride (if desired),
  • gifts to the parents of the bride,
  • wedding procession and car decorations,
  • a hotel room or a rented apartment for the first matrimonial night (if there is no separate accommodation).

The controversial often becomes the question of who should buy the bride’s bouquet for the wedding. It is logical that the groom should pay for the flowers, but there are times when the girls choose too expensive bouquets (according to the groom) or the bride doubts that her beloved will choose a suitable floral arrangement. In such situations, the bride can pay for the bouquet herself. Again, this point should be agreed in advance.

Joint spending:

  • invitations
  • wedding contractors: host, photographer, videographer, decorator, artists, etc.,
  • a place for an overnight stay for guests who came from far away (in the absence of free places in the houses of young people),
  • rent a banquet hall,
  • wedding party
  • loaf to meet young people after the registry office,
  • birthday cake
  • presentations for participation in games and competitions,
  • organization and holding of the 2nd wedding day,
  • Honeymoon.

Now you know who should pay for the wedding and at what stage of preparation. To avoid unnecessary expenses, be sure to calculate the amount that you are ready to pay. This is especially true for weddings with a modest budget. It is important that both parties agree on the estimated amount. After all, if one side wants a triumph on a grand scale, and the second cannot afford it, the beginning of family life can begin with mutual reproaches and insults both from lovers and their parents.

Witness costs

On shoulders bridesmaids the purchase / production of the necessary posters and trifles for assignments for redemption is entrusted, directly a gift to the young.

The witness, as a rule, helps the groom pay for the treats and drinks at the ransom. In some regions, a friend of the groom buys a witness a small bouquet. And, of course, do not forget about the main gift for a young family.

Who pays for the bachelorette party before the wedding

The last idle evening you can’t just sit at home alone. The soul requires a holiday, and a holiday - additional costs. But, having seen enough of American films, many Russian brides believe that a bachelorette party and a bachelor party should arrange and pay, none other than friends. But is it really so?

First of all, when thinking about parties, lovers should “knock out” the budget of the wedding. Indeed, the question of who pays for the bachelorette party before the wedding is worth answering honestly: initially it is better to rely only on your financial capabilities.

If, on the eve of the celebration, you have refrained, but do not want to miss the opportunity to take a bachelorette party, you should speak frankly with your friends. And there are several ways out of the situation.

How to pay for the party:

  1. The amount is divided among all the girls, including the bride, in half.
  2. The bride pays for alcohol (or the bill in the bar), and all snacks - each for itself.
  3. Pay half the costs, the second is divided between girlfriends.

Talking about who etiquette pays for a bachelorette party before the weddingthen of course bride. After all, this is her holiday, and she invites guests to it. But if the girlfriends really are such, they will certainly understand and accept your conditions. In the event that you meet a negative on your proposal, it is better to reduce the bachelorette party to tea at home with interesting games or completely abandon the party.

Before informing the girls about payment options for the evening, decide on the program. After all, it is one thing to throw a party in the country and quite another - in a club and with a limousine ride. An approximate budget will help friends to navigate. Remember that they are also preparing for your wedding, which means that there may also be no extra money.

Parents of the bride and groom pay for the wedding

This option takes place when the bride and groom are very young, do not have savings and the ability to pay for the celebration.

Naturally, in this case, you can arrange a very modest wedding. However, parents themselves often insist on a grand celebration, if at the same time they have the opportunity to pay for the banquet.

Undoubtedly, there are cases when young people want to pay for the wedding themselves, but parents consider themselves obligated to fully assume the financial part of the organization of the event, and most importantly - they have such an opportunity.

The expenses between the parents of the young can be divided exactly in half or in proportion to the number of guests invited to the wedding. There are times when the number of relatives and friends of the bride significantly exceeds the number of guests from the groom, and vice versa.

Parents of one of the future spouses pay for the wedding

This option is possible when the parents of one of the spouses are in a better financial position than the parents of the second spouse. Or in the case when only one of the parties insists on the wedding.

Be that as it may, morally, such an approach to organizing a wedding can be a difficult test for the party that did not take part in paying for the event.

The bride and groom pay for the wedding

In the event that the future spouses are already quite confident on their feet and make good money, they prefer to take all the costs for themselves. As in the first option, they either share the expenses equally, or in proportion to the number of guests.

If the parents nevertheless insist on providing at least minimal assistance, then they can, for example, pay for the bride’s dress and the groom’s suit. Often, the bride's parents pay her a wedding dress as a gift.

Parents always have the opportunity to donate money at a festive banquet or even give young people an apartment and a car. Such a gift will undoubtedly be much more significant than all wedding expenses.

Wedding expenses between parents, the groom and the bride are distributed as follows:

  • engagement ring for the groom
  • residence of parents, relatives and friends if they come from another city,
  • Wedding gifts for the parents of the groom.

Parents of the bride pay:

  • Banquet hall decoration
  • banquet,
  • services of a host, artists, photographer and videographer,
  • bride's dress,
  • bridesmaids dress (if provided),
  • wedding procession,
  • wedding invitations.

  • engagement and engagement ring for the bride,
  • state registration of marriage and wedding in the church (if it is provided),
  • a room in a hotel where young people spend their wedding night,
  • the bride's bouquet,
  • flowers for decorating a wedding party,
  • bouquets of bridesmaids (if provided),
  • a boutonniere for yourself
  • boutonnieres for friends of the groom, as well as other accessories, if provided for in the wedding style (special ties, gloves or hats),
  • honeymoon trip.

Parents of the groom pay:

  • suit of the groom
  • a gift for the newlyweds.

As you can see, at first glance, expenses are not evenly distributed. Especially embarrassing is the short list of spending by the groom's parents. However, remember that as a wedding gift can be something very significant and expensive. Naturally, the distribution of costs should be carefully reviewed for each individual family.

The bride pays for the wedding

It may well be possible that, at the time of marriage, the bride is more financially wealthy than the bridegroom, or has savings. Although, in experience, this happens quite rarely. More often the father of the bride takes all the costs associated with the organization of the wedding celebration.

As you can see, there are many options. Usually, it is customary to discuss the distribution of expenses on the day of the engagement, when the future spouses officially declare their intention to marry. Only thanks to a clear agreement even before the start of the wedding organization, it is possible to come to a unified decision about who and what will pay. At the same time, it is important to ensure that none of the parties feels embarrassed and incurs excessive expenses.