Do you want to impress a girl, but don’t know how to please a girl who is older than you? It will not be easy to attract the attention of a girl older than you, but knowing how to behave properly, what to say, how to look, you still have a chance. The main thing is not to go too far, to act confidently and not to replay.
What scares a girl in a relationship with a guy younger than her
First you need to understand how you might not like a potential sweetheart. The first thing that can push you away from you is your immaturity. It is in her youth that the girl likes guys who fit into her window with a bouquet of flowers, and in adulthood, she wants a reliable man nearby.
He must be able to make reasonable decisions and not go on about emotions. Youthful maximalism by older ladies is also not welcome. Secondly, an adult woman understands that sooner or later a young guy will pay attention to his peer and leave her alone.
You can, of course, often read about Hollywood couples in which a woman is older, but real examples speak differently. Very often, guys fall in love with experienced girls, build relationships with them, which then suddenly break off in order to start an affair with a younger person. But if you are sure that the girl with whom you are in love is your destiny, then nothing bad will happen to your couple.
If you want to attract a girl older than yourself, self-confidence is the key to everything. If you are a teenager, perhaps you are still trying to find your place in life and understand yourself, your environment and your needs. This is all wonderful.
But when it comes to dating an adult girl, these things should not come to the fore. Instead, show that you love yourself, love communicating with other people, and have a good time.
- If she sees that you noticed her, straighten up and keep yourself confident.
- Show the girl that you love yourself as you are, and do not try to constantly adapt to life.
- Speak clearly and clearly, maintain eye contact, pretend that you understand what is being said, even if it is not.
- To have complexes or lack of confidence in something is quite natural, but you should not demonstrate everything from the very beginning.
- Show that you are a strong person.
- Remember the competition: older guys from the university or even those who are already starting to build a career. If the girl sees that you are still trying to find your place in life, she will leave.
Perseverance and determination
This is one of the components of self-confidence. Show that you know what you want from life and that you are not afraid to tell others about it. Instead of breaking and busting, you should clearly show what you need. Let her see that you want to know her, want to invite her on a date, or have even come up with a great script for your meeting.
And although you must respect the age and wisdom of the girl, you should not constantly emphasize this and mention about her past years. Otherwise, she will begin to think that you are worried about the problem of age, and you can not cope with it.
- Once you have chosen the girl you like, let her know about it. Smile at her or immediately come up, depending on the situation.
- Do not press in the corner. Just come at least to say hello.
- If you want to be decisive and persistent, you must say what you think and think what to say.
- Nervousness is normal, but still you should not constantly stumble when talking, scamper or look at the floor.
Gaining experience at the age of 16 is quite difficult, but even small victories are considered. This does not mean that you should meet with as many girls as possible or go on a long trip with a backpack behind you to get to know real life.
You simply need to be able to expand your boundaries so that an adult girl sees that you are a multifaceted person who can also teach her something. If she constantly feels the dominance and the need to educate an adult in you, she will quickly run away. Here are some ways to gain experience:
- Travel Spend your holidays in a new place. This can be a visit to another country or a trip to relatives in a neighboring city. The more places you visit and the more people you learn, the more you realize that the world is not limited to the backyard of your village or the borders of the region.
- Go on dates. You do not need to date girls, just to become experienced in a certain field. Dating girls will help you better understand female nature. In addition, an adult girl is unlikely to meet with you if she understands that you have never had anyone. This is too heavy a burden for her.
- Lead an active lifestyle and develop. You can love football, but if that's all that you love and know, then the topics of conversations with a girl will end very quickly. Learn foreign languages, start an interesting hobby, read books or help orphanages or nursing homes.
As an adult
Again, it may be difficult for a teenager to act like an adult, but you must try your best to make a good impression. Women grow up a little faster than men, and the difference between your developmental levels may be more noticeable if you are several years younger than the girl.
Learn to control your mood, respond intelligently to unpleasant situations, minimize jargon or vulgar vocabulary, do not let off obscene jokes and make loud noises that may be so appropriate among your football teammates.
- Being an adult means being able to control your feelings. Show the girl that it’s not easy to upset or get you crazy.
- Being an adult is not complaining about every little thing. If you constantly whine, a girl might think that you can’t appreciate what is given to you in life and don’t see how beautiful this life is.
- Avoid gossip about your mutual acquaintances. She may also love to gossip, but it’s better not to, at least for the first time. Otherwise, she might think that you do not respect others.
- Be polite to others. If you go on a date, behave yourself decently with everyone with whom you will see and communicate. This is an important sign of an adult.
Despite the fact that you need to work hard on yourself to attract an older girl, you should not immerse yourself in seriousness completely. Carelessness and spontaneity can be the main reason for the girl's love for young guys. Indeed, unlike older comrades, adolescents are not burdened with problems at the university, job search, etc.
- There is a difference between childishness and tomfoolery. Every girl likes to fool around from time to time, so don't be afraid to look stupid.
- Make her laugh. A sense of humor is one of the most necessary qualities, do not hide it. Do not be afraid to look like a child, trying to make her laugh. If your jokes are appropriate and competent, she will like it.
- Do not be a bore. Of course, it is important to show the girl the depth of your soul, but do not discuss the philosophical thoughts that visited you last night already on the second date. Have fun at first, the rest will come later.
Age as a virtue
Do not think that being younger is an obstacle to relationships. Your cute appearance, amazing body movements in the dance or funny jokes can be exactly what the girl will fall in love with you. Feel free to your age. On the contrary, show that you are comfortable living in your age category.
- Perhaps you have not had much time in life, so impress the girl with stories about what else you will do. Show your love of life and your desire for the future.
- Infect her with your energy and enthusiasm. You can be much more active than guys of her age, and that's good!
Taboo on topics that show your age
Of course, you don’t need to hide your age, but it’s also not worth emphasizing your youth. If you are at school, and she is at university, you should not constantly discuss lessons, homework and teachers' comments.
- You should not hide your studies at school as part of your life, but you do not need to highlight school activities. Talk about family, friends, upcoming events. Let her see you outside the school walls.
- If you are both at the university, but she is in her last year, and you are in her first year, talk about your future plans, rather than how difficult it is for you to fit into the first year of study. She has come a long way, and your constant reminder of the first year may show her how freshmen are still stupid and not experienced.
An adult girl has a more serious relationship with friends, more different interests and hobbies, more employment. So do not forget to give her the necessary space.
- If you have a serious relationship, and you began to spend more time together, you do not need to become obsessive and intrusive, otherwise he will leave.
- If at first everything went well, you do not need to immediately ask when you will see each other again. Just come to her in a couple of days.
- Talk about your schedule. Show her that you also have a lot to do. If she decides that you just sit at home and play video games while waiting for her calls, she may lose interest in you.
If you want to learn how to properly handle an adult girl, you need to become a true gentleman. It may sound strange to you, but you should treat a girl like a lady, treat her with kindness and respect.
If you drove for it in a car, hold the passenger door when it sits down, open and hold the door at the entrance to the restaurant or another place, help remove or put on a coat. Other examples of gentlemanly behavior:
- Come on time or a little earlier. Show her that she means a lot to you.
- Always compliment her. Say that she looks stunning, beautiful, charming, etc. Feel free to say what you really think.
- Do not spit, do not itch, do not burp, etc.
- Always look good. Take a shower, cut your hair and nails in time, do not wear wrinkled or non-sitting clothes.
- Show the girl that you are making efforts before meeting her.
- Take her on lovely dates. No need to take her to McDonald's or Burger King. Even if you don’t have much money, make an effort.
- To make the evening romantic, even if it will be a walk under the stars.
No fake interest
Do not make her think that you are “pinned” by her age and that dating her is just a way to increase her self-esteem and rating in the eyes of her friends. Learn about her interests and pastime, ask what the relationship means to her. Of course, you should not play a detective story or turn a date into an interview, just make it clear that she is interesting to you as a person.
- When meeting, ask how her day went.
- Ask her opinion in various situations and on various topics.
Adult girls are usually more confident and more experienced, so it is always important to set the pace of the conversation and maintain it at a good level.
A detailed discussion of yesterday’s match may be appropriate when meeting with friends, but to show yourself as a versatile person, it’s worthwhile to make a little effort and read newspapers, watch news and read quality literature. You will not only expand your boundaries, but you can always find a topic for conversation.
- If you read something really interesting, share it. Ask her for an opinion.
- Talk about her relationships with brothers and sisters or with close friends. But do not start talking about past relationships.
- Tell us about your travels. Even if you spent your holidays in a neighboring town and village.
- Keep your wit up. If he said something funny, you don’t just have to laugh, pick up a topic and come up with a funny commentary in the sequel. So you show that you really follow the thread of the conversation.
Forget about age difference
At first it can be funny and amusing, but you should not constantly joke how young you are and how experienced she is. She might think that you care about this difference or, even worse, she will start to worry about it.
- No need to immediately mention the difference in age with others. Meet her friends calmly. They may not immediately notice that you are a little younger.
You can be so focused on impressing and attracting an adult girl that you end up losing yourself. No need to pretend to be a completely different person. The ability to look and behave older than one's years, as well as the development of desired qualities can play into the hands, but this does not mean that you need to completely forget yourself.
If you have a secret “wacky” hobby, feel free to talk about it if it means a lot to you.
Show her your best qualities, for which others appreciate you.
Prove your “suitability” to her
What needs to be done and how to please a girl who is older than you? Of course, to prove to her by actions that you are serious and that next to you she will be happy. You should not tell her too much about how well you will relate to her - to be convinced of the sincerity of your words she can only in real relationships.
Most likely, at first you will hear a refusal or even a mockery - they say that a young fan imagines himself. But if you do not stop and gently offer your candidacy as her companion, she is unlikely to stand.
You can tell her to agree to meet with you for the sake of the experiment, and there you will already win her heart by simple actions. What can be offered to a girl who has already left youthful naivety, and cynicism and sometimes cold calculation gave way to romance?
Caring, Sex, Compliments
Any girl can be won by three components. Care, because a girl, especially one that is several years older than a guy, needs her. Sex, because with age a woman blossoms sexually and she needs to make love more often than at age 20.
Compliments, because in her youth they often make them, and with age, she feels that, despite the preserved beauty, men do not so aggressively call her for a cup of coffee and praise her legs. Even if she thinks that you are not an option for her, thanks to persistent courtship, she will agree to see what happens.
Surround her with attention, because the lady who was held is not enough for someone to take care of her: he picks him up from work by car, bought medicines at the pharmacy when she has a cold, was worried if she had been exposed to rain and so on. She has been doing all this herself for a long time and may have forgotten how pleasant it is when someone thinks of you.
By sex you can also conquer a girl who has just begun to understand him a lot. She will be glad that they want her, her body is attractive and desirable for a young man, that is, for you. Do not forget that women almost always have feelings after physical contact.
Therefore, after you make love to her, she will look at you with different eyes. Finally, with compliments you will finally conquer its location. More often tell her that in your life she occupies a central place, and you will always be nice to such a luxurious woman.
The material component of the relationship
A girl who is several years older than you is most likely used to a higher standard of living than you can give her at this time. But this should not be an obstacle to your relationship. The main thing is that she sees your determination and willingness to grow.
Tell her about your plans, career prospects and more often pamper her with flowers. Let him see that you dress more seriously than your peers, are in more respectable institutions and lead a measured lifestyle.
Now you know how to please a girl who is older than you. In love, all means are good, and in order to win a girl, you need to make an effort. The principles of conquering older girls are not too different from the usual ones - any of us want to feel necessary and loved.
1. Do not overdo it with sex
I’ll make a reservation right away: this text is for the youngest and most hyperactive part of our audience, young men of 18–25 years old (those who are more experienced can just see the pictures is also a pleasure). So - an unkind sign, if after having sex with you she regularly takes her leg, stabs in her side, dizzy and anxiously grunts in her back. Most likely, eight times a day a woman who is older than you (hereinafter referred to as FSW) does not really want to. Well, you understand: pressure, arrhythmia, and indeed - trouble at work and get up early tomorrow. For a week or two, of course, she will tolerate your sprinting attacks - it is possible that with painkillers and red bu, but then it’s better to switch from quantity to quality.
2. Speak less and listen more
Не стоит уточнять, сколько раз она кончила, если не готов услышать правду (хотя взрослые люди о таких вещах вообще не спрашивают). Это сокурсницы могут, не краснея, лжесвидетельствовать о шестнадцати оргазмах за полчаса. ЖКС для этого слишком уважает себя, партнера (то есть тебя) и сам процесс. Вместо духоподъемного вранья она лучше расскажет тебе, почему так приятнее, чем эдак, где еще ее следует поцеловать и для чего нужна вооон та пупырчатая штуковина на тумбочке. Короче говоря, поделится секретами мастерства. And you don’t be a mug - listen and remember. In terms of information content, a week of regular intercourse with FSW is equivalent to a year of somersaults with peers.
3. Do not pretend to be older and more experienced
A tie instead of a hoodie and New Balance sneakers. Down the earring from the ear. Points for solidity. A briefcase, not a backpack. Boy, who are you trying to trick? You fell in love with the FSW without all these attributes of solidity. And since some divorced manager with an emerging bald head did not appear in your place, then glasses, ties and briefcases are not what attracts her to men at the moment. In other words, you are pretty FSW in its original form, so leave everything as it is.
The same goes for trying to look more experienced than you really are. Fictional stories about crowds of conquered women and concluded multimillion-dollar contracts, supposedly read books and seen films - all this is calculated at once. You don’t want the FSW to consider you even more nonsense than you really are?
4. Postpone meeting friends
The question of friends and meeting them is one of the most delicate. It is enough for the FSW to appear at least once in your company arm in arm with such an outrageously young you - and they will no longer call it “child molester” and “pedophile”.
Your friends and especially friends, one must assume, will also ambiguously react to a too-old companion.
Practice shows that at first it’s wiser not to advertise your unequal alliance. FSW knows this. It would be nice to learn for you, and not ask for corporate parties and dinner parties. And having received a refusal, do not terrorize her with reproaches, saying, "you are shy about me."
When and if there is something to be presented to the public (for example, love to the grave, marriage certificate, a couple of little sons and a little daughter) - then you will leave the shadow.
Until now, it’s safer not to shock the already nervous public.
5. Do not plan leisure time alone
In your opinion, it’s good to have a day off — it’s to sleep until three in the afternoon, order pizza for a dash breakfast, then ride a bike, play Munchkin with your friends in the evening or watch Futurama, and after midnight move to the club. At first you will be sure that the FSW thinks about the same. Ha and a hundred times more ha! From a 12-hour sleep, her back hurts, how to drink, give. From pizza - gases. She would prefer a good book to Munchkin and Futurama. After riding a bicycle, she will limp for another week, and from a rumbling club house, cigarette smoke and cheap viskar, she will suffer from migraines. This is all to the fact that the FSW will surely agree to any adventure proposed by the exuberant youth and health of the boyfriend, just not to look like an old wallet in his eyes. But don’t be a beast — measure your ideas with her interests and ask more often what she herself would like to do.
6. Don’t bother with money
No, I do not urge you to become an Alphonse, but to climb out of your skin also makes no sense. Yes, perhaps one dish in her favorite restaurant costs like all your monthly ration. But this doesn’t mean at all that you have to work out three jobs, if only a girl older than you would not deny yourself truffles and foie gras. On the other hand, and she is not obliged to eat in the forehead cheburek, which you can afford.
The solution is simple: once honestly write your real financial situation - and let her decide how it will go on. Will offer to pay pasties 50 to 50 - why not. She prefers to walk you through restaurants at her own expense - she holds the flag in her hands, you just don’t really have a greyhound there. According to the same scheme, it is recommended to solve the issue of paying for joint rest, shopping, etc.
7. Beware of giving advice.
At the time when you calculated the square roots, the FSW was already in full swing of novels and went for interviews. It is not surprising that by the time of your meeting she will have a background that you never dreamed of, and an extensive collection of former bosses, ex-lovers and husbands, mother-in-law, children, nannies, neighbors, etc. God forbid you begin to "give a connoisseur of life" and advise her how it will be more correct and better to resolve one or another conflict. To do this, she has an army of best friends, a psychotherapist, a manicurist, a yoga trainer and a spiritual mentor in addition. Talk about the serious - listen and nod, but comment on the minimum. Otherwise, you can once and for all discredit yourself in her eyes. As a rule, it is during such heart-to-heart conversations that it becomes obvious how big the gulf separating you is.
8. Keep your emotions in check
It is possible that you will be discouraged and even offended by some detachment and coldness of the FSW. You broke in the middle of the night (!) To the other end of the city (!) To give a bouquet of violets (!) And inhale the aroma of her hair (!), And she didn’t even burst into tears of happiness - oh woman, do you have a piece of brick instead of a heart? ! But this is really not what you think. FSW does not rush to your neck at a meeting, does not write a hundred SMS messages a day, refuses to be jealous of a neighbor and spend the whole night clarifying relationships not because she does not care about you. She's just an adult. And adults a priori more accurately manage their own emotions: they try not to scatter in big words, not to swear in vain, etc. Take it as a given and do not waste your and her nerves in vain. Your romantic attempts and tendency to dramatize everything is, of course, nice. But damn tiring.
9. Filter humor
Remember once and for all: if someone is allowed to be ironic about the difference in age, then only her. Quod licet Jovi, as they say, non licet bovi. And in Russian, every cricket know your own hearth.
The use of revolutions such as “in my youth. "," The elders know better. "," Live to my age and understand. "- nothing more than a defensive reaction. Although we live in a free country, society with varying degrees of condemnation looks at the “daddies” in embrace with vocational school students and at over-aged ladies with young lovers. The FSW, with its caustic comments, seems to demonstrate to the world that it has not yet completely survived from the mind and is aware of who it has contacted, but it doesn’t worry a bit about it. Actually complex, of course. And your witticisms on the subject of age will be interpreted as outright rudeness and cruelty.
10. Do not think that she cannot have serious feelings for you
There is an opinion that the only reason why a lady, say, at forty, is associated with a 20-year-old boy, is the desire to unwind, cheer up, taste, so to speak, a young meat. This is certainly not the only one! According to my internal statistics, there are more stories where a woman falls in love with a young boyfriend more than those where everything begins and ends with sex. I will explain why. Of all the ways to increase your self-esteem, an affair with a guy fit as your sons is probably the most laborious and unproductive. It so happened historically that it is more convenient and pleasant for a girl to feel unconscious, dependent, guided, “baby” and “dope” (and no matter how old she is at the same time - 16 or 36). With a young gentleman, the stump is clear, this is unrealistic. We add social pressure, complexes, exhausting discrepancy in speeds and amplitudes. In short, it is really difficult. So much effort for the sake of God knows what pleasure (see paragraph 1, where the negative consequences of your hypersexuality are described in black and white)? Well don't make me laugh! So it turns out that, as a rule, a woman gets into an affair with a young one, having serious, well, very serious reasons.